Oct 22

Soaring to New Heights?

faith at the ocean 8-12“Mom, Look What I Can Do. Faith Preparing to Soar!”

Soaring to new heights seems like an impossible feat, especially if we just took a nasty nose dive. After a bad experience like that and feeling very low, we may question if we can ever see above the curb again.

When facing disappointments and the circumstances aren’t looking good, shall we keep trying to force the issue? Do we keep going or stop and re-evaluate? In the process of reconsidering a situation, it is important to remember ‘fear of failure’ could be part of the problem that keeps us from trying again.

Perhaps we suddenly developed a fear of heights? After all, who really wants to soar to new heights? I heard it is lonely at the top, and I don’t want to be lonely. Also, it takes a lot of energy to do anything, even soaring, as we grow older. When we are out of shape, get too tired, perhaps even a little depressed, then add past failures that invade our memories, we still have to make an important decision. Is it too late to even try to fly once again?

After all, does anyone even know what happens when we get to the top after all that soaring? Where is the top located anyway? Does anyone know what we are suppose to do when we arrive? Wouldn’t it be sad if we crossed all the valleys, climbed all the mountains, and finally reached our destination only to find out that there was nothing there but one more Walmart and McDonald’s? I realize they have their value and place, but there, really? That would be challenging to say the least.

To help clarify the terminology, “soaring to new heights” we could add a picture of hot air balloons. Visual aids seem to be helpful. Each individual has a different perspective to be defined by their personal experience and desires. Physically speaking, to soar would require external help, energy, combined with a plan of action, and a total commitment. I love to soar internally, where my emotions are free to dream big dreams, dare to make changes, with then use wisdom to count the cost before I attempt to jump off another cliff and begin a new adventure.

Oct 08

Short and sweet

DSC03122Here today, gone tomorrow, somethings in life a very fragile

Realizing life is short, and somethings really are fragile, I have to accept the fact so am I. Looking at the clock, only three minutes to count down. How fast can I write this? I find that once again I am trying to fit too many things into one small time frame. When we know we only have a few minutes to say, or do something, how do we react? For some, they may glitch,others totally freeze up, a few can not even think straight or become paralyzed with fear. There are those who say way too much and do not make any sense whatsoever. Surprisingly there are a few who who watch as the time passes and the urgency settles, waiting to see what will happen next.

As for me, I just finished a great job and am celebrating the fact those who were working with me did an excellent job. Now I am thankful for new opportunities that have arose and yet remind myself to look closely at the circumstances, take time to count the cost, and determine if I truly want to commit to a new project with that dynamic.

I have found when I am asked to make a decision and I only had a few minutes, hours, days or weeks, to be committed, I firmly believe it is best to stop and evaluate what I am seriously being asked to accomplish and for how long. I know the importance and the pain at times for saying two short but powerful words, “I Do!”

I do not want to say I do if I do not really want to do what would be required of me. I asked students today to “Do the Math”…. How many of us fail to do our own math? Remember the cost/benefit ratio concept? I am a firm believer in running the numbers, knowing what are the expenses, in time and money before saying ‘Yes’ to anything. It is important to truly evaluate where we are on a continual basis. What are our resources, psychologically. emotionally, physically and spiritually, and do we have enough to accomplish the task? It matters not the time of day, before stepping out in a new direction, let us stop and listen within ourselves, for there lies our answers.

Sep 24

Do you count?

594Caught in a serious moment, deep in thought, messy desk and all, writing creatively.

When we are slow to speak and quick to listen, we are displaying wisdom in our lives. When we speak up, it is important to remember to let our ‘yes be yes’ and ‘our no be no’. One of our highest priorities; be true to our word.

Many times in the past I was asked to help with a project, or take on a responsibility. Unfortunately I said yes more than once. At the time I didn’t really think about the consequences, I just thought I would be helpful. Maturing, I learned a great lesson. It is wise to count the cost before making any commitment, in word or deed.

Today I was so happy I caught myself before I made that mistake again. I was seriously contemplating doing something that sounded like a really good idea without thinking it through. I wanted to contact someone to inquire about a position that just opened up. As a writer, I have written articles for a local newspaper off and on for years. That position I referred to was for writing a column for the paper on a weekly basis. To have the responsibility that comes with it, deadlines, etc. there is a huge cost as well as a great responsibility. I was challenged by the columnist who had been writing it for nearly ten years to take her place. My first instinct was excitement. I quickly sent a message to my friend working for that paper asking who I contact? She responded shortly, informing me what to do.

Fortunately I am maturing, and with that maturity I am gaining wisdom. Therefore, I decided not to continue pursuing this opportunity without actually doing what I talk about. I took time to stop and count the cost. What exactly would be the cost/benefit ratio? Is it a paid position? How much time do I currently have to commit each week for research and actual writing time to create interesting articles? Could I be faithful to stay focused and do a good job, or would I get bored with the idea after a short time? Would this decision open doors for other opportunities for my line of work; or would it just add more work and take away other opportunities for my future?

I wrote about this experience to use as an example of “counting the cost”. The word cost implies something is not free. I realized this truth when I made the commitment to write a post here daily, if possible, knowing this too takes time.

What do I have that is more valuable than time? Nothing! Time spent is time never to be regained somewhere else or at some other time. We all have so many heart beats and so many breaths. The reality that I cannot add even one more heartbeat to my life reminds me to treasure each one I have.

When I take time to write these posts, it is with the hope they will help the reader gain some insight or encouragement as they too spend their own heart beats and breath. I highly recommend we become more aware how we spend this precious gift we have called time.

When I count the cost to any commitment in the future, I will keep in mind the commitments I already have and determine if I can put one more thing on my plate. Remember, when we add one thing to our schedule, we may be required to take something else away. I love to write and plan to complete the work I have before me. Can I realistically add another responsibility such as that and do it justice?

Part of counting the cost is to ask ourselves serious questions. Are there things on our plate that need to be removed to be able to make room for that which needs to be there now? Do we need a bigger plate or smaller responsibilities? Whatever our race, culture, gender, or age, we are all humans with limited capabilities. Remember, stopping to ponder, then count the cost before moving forward with yet another commitment will surely be time well spent.