Feb 26

Changing moods



Is it possible to know if men have the same frequency of mood changes as women? Is it factual that women actually change their minds as often as people say they do? The question stands, is it ok for any of  us to change our minds, if we are men or women?

We know the weather changes, as well as the seasons change. Our bodies change and our relationships also had will change. Things we were able to do when we were young have changed; we are not able to perform as well as we once did as we continue to get older. Our interests will change as our maturity level increases. Although this is not new information, why is it we always get surprised when someone we know and love begins to go through transformations and ultimately changes as well.

I have the opinion that we may have false perceptions that we are suppose to be the same as we were, in reality it is impossible. When we think about the fact it is reported every seven years our bodies go through a complete change, why do we think we should look the same. That all said, why is it we think we are suppose to same the same?

Are we being influenced by our media, culture, peer pressure and faulty belief systems? What is causing our changing moods? As long as we are heading in a positive direction I think we can adjust to whatever changes we have to face.

Feb 25

Constantly changing

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There are times in life when we may be free to do things we enjoy and at other times circumstances will come up that appear to turn our lives upside down. Our plans to accomplish certain goals could have been completely changed. Things we thought we could count on seemed to disappear.

We understand that things never stay the same and our lives are in a constant flux. Why do we fear change when we know it is a natural part of life? We can rest assured knowing the only thing that we can really count on is the fact things will always change.

How do we handle life’s changes with grace? What do we put our trust and confidence in when we know everything is as shifting sand? This question can only be answered by each individual as they stop and look into their own heart. Some may say they trust no one, others say they place their trust in the rock of their salvation.

When we accept the fact there is a season for everything, we can be at peace knowing things are beginning to change all the time. We can’t place get our security from any person, system, finance, or organization for they too will change.

Accepting that reality allows us to flow easier as we go in and out of each transition in life . Finding others who are like minded and are willing to go through changes with us is a gift to be treasured. Going with the flow with someone you know is much easier than going it alone. We need each other as we whether the storms of life. It is not too late to begin making new relationships. To do so we need to remember that true friendships are a gift, and to have friends one must show themselves friendly.

Feb 05

What motivates change


As time passes many are going through changes, some are pleasant while others very dramatic. It is said, “Everything is for a season.” Knowing that nothing stays the same and change is inevitable, why is it that we experience fear when change comes? Fear of the unknown?

When we have been committed to one thing, and something else comes along that we may prefer even better, we can make changes and choose to embrace the new opportunity, circumstance or relationship. Perhaps one has been single for a long period of time and enjoys their freedom to come and go as they please. When they find another who desires to share their life with them, are they willing to let go of their  independence, control of personal finances, favorite food choices, and a variety of other things? They might have took for granted many of the freedoms one has when they are single.There are pro’s and con’s for being in a relationship and being single.

What motivates one to change may be the exact thing that keeps others determined they will never change. We are all different, individual, and unique. As time passes and we get older things change in our lives in many ways. Our choices will be fewer due to many circumstances than they were when we were younger. It is time to recognize, having eyes to see, what opportunities we have right in front of us at this very moment. Do we desire to embrace them? Let us take time to determine when changes come if they  truly are what we desire and if we can realistically enjoy them, of refrain and look for alternatives. What motivates change? For some, reward behavior modification, using stickers, sweets, financial gain, or pleasure can bring about desire changes. For others, negative reinforcement with some type of punishment, cost, pain, or financial loss can also bring about change.  I prefer the reward system and that will bring the desired results with desired change. Whatever the case, count the cost before making any commitment is great advice.