“Your value does not decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth”
This statement is amazingly simple and powerfully true. Are we willing, or able to embrace it?
What is our value? What does the word value mean? Here are a few definitions: Having worth or merit; of great significance or value; being honorable or admirable; having incalculable monetary, intellectual or spiritual worth.
Who determines what is valuable and what is not? Is it our mother, our father, our significant other, peers, co-workers, friends, neighbors, what about the mailman? Does it really matter in the scheme of things what others think or how they value our worth? Perhaps it does, or perhaps not.
Our number one basic need centers around our survival. Our second basic need is love and belonging. While our mother is caring for us it is important she loves and values our existence. In my profession, I recognize not all mothers have a strong instinct to protect and care for their off spring. Many prefer to dispose of, or neglect their babies.
Many do not have a sound mind, others may choose to put their own needs before the child. Therefore, many grow up with low self-esteem from neglect and abuse and cannot comprehend that they are valuable in any way.
It is good news when we can take to heart the reality our value does not depend on or decrease due to someone else’s inability to see our worth. For many, the pain of abuse and rejection over many years has created tremendous emotional scars.
As a heart mender specialist I have seen many lives transformed and relationships healed as those who were hurting came to understand that their value is never in question. We are all created with amazing abilities to love and learn and share life together as we journey together in this adventure we call life. May we all remind each other of the fact life is good and we appreciate the privilege to be able to share it moment by moment.